Bending not Breaking

Years ago, I did not handle well someone not agreeing with me. When met with conflict, contradiction, difficulties, I would have stories that were: 

Judgmental,

Dense,

Tension-creating,

Unkind to myself and others.

Interpersonally, what I’ve learned is that it *costs me less* to bend, soften, and open my heart when faced with conflict with others. This includes everyone from those close to me to complete strangers.

In fact, cultivating this practice is actually a big part of why I am so healthy and happy now. It’s a big part of why not much rattles me these days – even physical symptoms (occasionally) show up. …Even when intense family and friend situations emerge. …Political haywire? Nope. Not ruffled. Not rattled.

The gift of being able to do this has not come from mindset or spiritual work alone.

I know it takes more than that (because of how stuck and miserable I was). I talk to a lot of very sick people with lots of physical and emotional pain who haven’t yet understood what it takes to transform what seems like inevitable suffering.

Often interpersonal conflict (current/active or in the past) is a core part of the tension in my client’s lives. Responding in more empowered ways to other people’s choices and viewpoints is often a big part of feeling physically better.

There are pillars necessary to have in place to heal deeply we can interact with others in ways that don’t have such a cost to us:
*Accept the current situation
*Decide to change the way you are looking at things and doing things (because it’s not working)
*Realize that it’s not mindset or spiritual seeking alone that will get you there
*Increase and improve your internal/foundational energy (game changer)
*Open your heart to healing emotional density/pain.
*Seek guidance from people you resonate with and respect to support and mentor you to remember who you really are.

And it’s possible for anyone ready to walk a new path to embark in a new direction. Start with wondering what is possible.

Peace.