Life With No Regrets
Life with no regrets. I have made this an intention for quite a number of years now and was pondering how this intention has shifted my perspective in enormous ways. I am writing this now as I sit outside at a local coffee shop where I have come to work on administrative tasks. A young mom with her two preschool age children have arrived and occupy the lounge area in front of me. They are chatty and happy – delightfully sharing a pastry. A lull this rainy afternoon means the usually full outdoor couches are empty, allowing the young girls to playfully arrange the cushions (no harm done) and watch the sparrows pick up crumbs.
A warm feeling spreads across my chest.
In this moment, I think of myself when my own children were that age about 14 years ago. I attempt to remember if I experienced moments like that with my kids. Instead of regret or dwelling on the fact that I cannot remember many moments of relaxed glee, I warmly and fondly think of that younger version of myself.
You were doing the best you could with the tools that you had.
I take a few breaths and send the mom before me in the moment AND the younger version of myself COMPASSION: A sincere wish and prayer: to be free of suffering and the root of suffering; to know happiness and the root of happiness. I choose to allow my heart to smile at this woman and her children at Starbucks and at myself and my kids more than a decade earlier.
That might sound bananas: My Heart To Smile?
Back then I had no tools for dealing with stress and high anxiety. Everything felt like and emergency or a fire to put out. While I did have an intense life then, there was plenty to be thankful for. There were many moments to relax and enjoy the moment. However, my memories of actually doing that are few and far between.
Over time, the intensity with which I greeted life, started to take a toll on my health. It certainly didn’t do any favors for my contentment and ability to go with the flow.
Chronic pain and a health crisis brought to light the fact that I needed to calm down.
These days, I write and speak about the role of a powerful qi gong practice called Pangu Shengong (qi gong) in helping not only build my internal energy but also to CALM DOWN. I am stronger now than I have ever been (even during my triathlon years). I sleep well. I have FREEDOM from physical pain (huge). My relationships are strong and I am blessed to have incredible people in my life. I am doing what I love and was meant to do for a living. It is an honor.
No Joke. Everyday I feel like life keeps getting better.
Better – In the midst of “stressful” events happening: Life IS happening. People are sometimes challenging. Teenagers are sometimes frustrating. Unexpected and expensive car repairs show up. Someone close to me has a health crisis. Etcetera.
Practice Compassion in big broad ways, including transforming a tendency to have regrets. Become stronger internally, not just externally. Great personal power resides in choosing to allow our HEART to SMILE at what stirs up discomfort in us – Our hearts to smile at what WE DO NOT LIKE. Catch Regret. And Choose authentically to have No Regrets in the first place.
It’s a game changer.
It heals.
No regrets is a Compassion practice. Compassion is not just a nice thing to have for yourself or others. It heals. Just building your energy isn’t enough. Elevate your heart and soul too.
LOVE LOVE LOVE
Running, Jumping, and Lunging in the Grass over 40
I never guessed that I would be running, jumping, and lunging in the across a field at 46 years old!
Mother’s Day weekend, I went to an open space with my two active teenagers to play with a Frisbee like thing called Aerobie. None of us were particularly skilled at aiming when we started and plus the wind interfered a bit as we remembered our skills. That meant I was running, jumping, lunging for this awesome toy before sending it soaring again across the lawn to the next kid. It was totally fun!
At some point I realized that I hadn’t played like that in quite some time. As I felt my foot land on uneven Earth as I ran or jumped, I wondered briefly if I would have sore ankles the next day. Or sore knees.
I wondered if I might be generally sore or even hurt from playing so hard
I wondered if I might just be generally sore or even hurt from playing so hard doing something I had not done in a very long time. Then, as I continued to toss, run, and catch, I realized that I felt incredibly energized and JAZZED in my body. I also realized that 10 years ago, I would not have had the motivation or energy to play as I was playing now. If I had, the physical pain I would have experienced would have shut it down pretty quick.
Guess what? I felt great the next day. No soreness at all from the intense frolicking. I considered how I might have felt 10 or 20 years ago after playing like that. I would have been a stiff mess and surely would have hurt knee or ankle or back.
How great I feel in my body now, I owe to the practice of Pangu Shengong.
I owe how great I feel in my body now, in my mid-forties, to the practice of Pangu Shengong. My health is great, I rarely get sick – and if I do it is very short lived – I am enjoying my life and my family in ways I never thought possible. My anxiety is nearly non-existent and I sleep well and wake rested. This is not how I experienced life in my 20s and 30s. I have much gratitude for learning to cultivate and balance my energy, emotions, and spirit though a Qi Gong practice called Pangu Shengong.
Coming the weekend of June 22-25, my teacher Qi Gong GrandMaster Ou, Wen Wei will be in Raleigh for an annual visit. If you are new to the concept of Qi (life force), Qi Gong (cultivation of life force) and improving you health and life with this practice you may want to attend a lecture and meditation event on Saturday Morning June 23, 9-10;30am. Master Ou will be sharing about Pangu Shengong and also sharing healing energy. The cost to attend this event which is also a fundraiser for the Golden Hill Foundation is only $25 or $35 per family. The Golden Hill Foundation is a local non profit that seeks to bring qi gong, meditation, mindfulness, tai chi and yoga to at-risk youth and their familes in the Raleigh area.
Following this lecture and meditation will be the Foundational Qi Cultivation Moving Form Qi Gong class from 11-12:30pm. This is the first level of Pangu Shengong. Many of you seeing this may have taken this Moving Form Qi Gong from me or another ceritified instructor. You can retake it with Master Ou for $60. It is powerful to retake any of Pangu Shengong classes. I always retake these classes when I have the opportunity. The rest of the schedule for the weekend is at http://www.pangu.org/events/raleigh-2018/
Please let me know if you have any questions at all. Contact me.
June 2018 Qi Gong Grandmaster Ou returns to Raleigh
June 22-25, 2018, Qi Gong Grandmaster Ou returns to Raleigh. Most of you reading this know how the practice of Pangu Shengong has changed my life. When I think about how my life and health were before March of 2012, this practice has probably saved my life in many ways. This is an opportunity for qi gong instruction and so much more.
There is a simple, effective method to balance energy, emotions, and improve your health
If you want to learn more about Master Ou and what this powerful form of Qi Gong (which means a way to cultivate/balance your energy), the first event Saturday Morning, June 23, 9-10:30am is a great opportunity: Golden Hill Meditation. This is low-cost way ($25/$35 per family) to experience the balancing healing energy in Pangu Shengong – a special and unique form of qi gong that works deeply in dedicated practitioners to heal and strengthen the body and also the heart and soul. Qi Gong practice (especially regular practice of Pangu Shengong) can improve your health, your immunity, and emotional state. How does it get better than that? I am really enjoying finding out.
Sign up for most classes the weekend of June 22-25
http://www.pangu.org/events/raleigh-2018/
This informal video from a couple of weeks ago shares one way this practice has impacted my life. Then I give a quick summary of the Golden Hill Foundation Meditation and Pangu Raleigh Weekend.
Below are some suggestions for June 23-24 especially. Please note that the Sunday Group Healing Session is full. There’s lots of room now on Monday, June 24, in the Group Healing Meditation. The Monday session will also fill.