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“Ought”, um, chemistry? Walk in the “shoulds”?

October 28, 2022 By Erin Tracy, Medical Qi Gong and Health Coaching

“Ought”, um, chemistry?
Walk in the “shoulds”? Aye – Shortfall.
Mess Drop. Leave… Seize on

OR

Autumn chemistry
Walk in the woods. Sigh. Short Fall.
Yes, drop. Leaf season.
#fridayhaiku #punsarefun #doublemeaning #droptheshouldsandoughts #seizetheday

I spent years with “I should really” or “I ought to” talk running through my head and out my mouth.

That story was motivated by the values I have
– to be a responsible and thoughtful person and
– to choose things that benefit my health and well-being.

Sometimes though, that self-“ought and should”-talk had me spending hours, days, weeks, with silent guilt or shame when I judged myself for not measuring up to
-the standards I had for myself or
-the perceived standards that I thought others had for me.

I personally have always been a pretty self-motivated person. And on some level, that kind of self-talk “pushed” me to get stuff done. However, over the long term, this talk is not of the highest use to oneself.

Besides the guilt and shame that is fed when your judge yourself to “fall short”, the “should-ing all over yourself”, feeds a martyr mentality, erodes authentic compassion for yourself and others, and disconnects you from your highest guidance.

It’s probably apparent to you that saying a lot of “shoulds” and “oughts” to yourself (and creating a side effect of shame, guilt, or that other stuff I mentioned above), isn’t ideal.

You probably know that this is not easy to just *stop doing it*.

This is the thing about behavior change.

Be willing, open, or curious about looking at the motivation for the behavior.

This will be a smoother process with abundant internal energy and with an authentic commitment to your highest guiding principles.

[Hmmm? What are those principles exactly?]

Now, we all have things that are in the realm of our responsibilities. Some of these are on the grand scale of good for humanity and some are on the smaller scale of responsibilities in our families, to ourselves, to our jobs, clients, etc.

I am not saying that we “ought” [hahaha] to shirk our responsibilities, but instead “choose” to do things with a new heart-set and mind-set.

What would it be like for you to identify your responsibilities and then carry them out (as best you can at first) with kindness, humility, calmness, and openness?

I prefer that myself. It’s smoother.

There is harmony in bringing those qualities to things I used to begrudge.

And there are other things that I used to begrudge doing, that I can see now weren’t in my highest or another person’s interest to be doing in the first place.
And so I don’t do them anymore.

To practice meeting each task, responsibility, etc with complete kindness, humility, calmness, and openness, start by deciding to meet each moment with a clean slate: Not weighing the past. Not guessing the future.

Seize the moment. Ground yourself. Then take action with an expanding heart.

Flow. Let the rest drop away.

The Lightness in the YES

June 10, 2022 By Erin Tracy, Medical Qi Gong and Health Coaching

A true Yes or No?
(Verses Story). How to know?
Resistance is neither.
~~~
When we can decide that it is simply this or that, yes or no, go or stay, do or don’t do, speak or stay quiet, etc there is *no story*.

When it’s clear to make, the decision feels *light*.

And that is how you can KNOW. This takes practice. And the cultivation of your internal energy and power along with expanding the capacity of your heart and your love definitely supports this. What about AFTER you decide?

I was talking with a client last week about evaluating decisions and being aware of the extraneous “story themes” that interfere with truly knowing what the best decision is for you at the moment.

By story themes I mean big broad loud stories that might be habitually playing in your head as you make decisions:
What if this is the wrong choice?
Who do I think I am?
I can’t afford it.
I can’t do it.
They won’t like it.
They will think I am stupid.
What if I change my mind?
[add your own]

Anyhow, with this client, we were discussing how sometimes there is a lot riding on a decision and that creates anxiety.

The antidote is exercising the muscle of *trust* regularly. Trust that before, during, and after making a decision that it was the best, most life-affirming at that moment.

I recently made a couple of big decisions that will have a giant effect on the next three months of my life. I said “yes” to having an experience.

At first, there were the usual story themes (I had several of the ones I listed above running through LOL).

And then, a simple YES.

And even though it has been a tremendous leap of faith and a giant undertaking, I have never once regretted it and I don’t intend to (wink). This particular decision is completely in line with my vision for my life and this will be EASY and SIMPLE even though it will be filled with growing opportunity.

FLOW FLOW FLOW.
#fridayhaiku #españa #bilbao #sayyes

I Am More Than Enough

July 26, 2017 By Erin Tracy, Medical Qi Gong and Health Coaching

I am more than enough.  I have what I need.  I have gratitude for the abundance in my life.

Recognizing those truths in my core being has been instrumental in my own healing, reclaiming my joy, overcoming my anxiety and resolving some health issues. It hasn’t been easy and there are still times when my old patterns and beliefs come to the forefront of my consciousness and affect my actions.

The old patterns were based on a myth of scarcity and a general long held belief that, in all things, there was a lack of abundance. These patterns shaped everything I did for much of my life and I would venture a guess that they have played a big part in the lives of most everyone I know.

It is so easy to start the day from this “not enough” viewpoint: not enough sleep.

This can very easily become an overarching sentiment of the day.  There’s not enough time. I don’t have enough energy,  That’s too expensive. I am not worthy enough. I didn’t exercise enough, work enough, love enough, get loved enough, etc.

Lynne Twist talks about 3 Damaging Myths about scarcity that keep us from feeling abundance in our lives.

1) There’s not enough and that someone is going lose

2) More is better

3) That’s just the way it is and it’s never going to change.

Sound familiar? Most people nod their head when these myths are pointed out.  It can be a challenge to embrace the idea that they may not be true.

What if the truth is that there IS enough time, money, love, nourishment, sleep, etc?

Take sleep, for example. What if it’s true that in order for you to get enough sleep no one else has to suffer? There’s enough sleep (or insert another thing you believe there isn’t enough of).  There are people who live at what we would consider “poverty level” and they GET THIS. They don’t live their lives from a place of lack or scarcity. Even though our standards might consider them “impoverished”, they have peace in their lives, they are connected to their inner wisdom, and they have a resilience that many financially “better off” people have never known.

So how to break free from the myths? Especially from the last myth I listed – “That’s just the way it is and it isn’t ever going to change”? This myth can be part of the reason that we can’t let go of patterns that are no longer servicing us. In fact, we must realize our power to change what we can. Where can we affect the biggest change in our control with far-reaching effects? Change what is on the inside – our internal landscape/climate/chatter.

How can we shift our inner landscape?

Gratitude: Find the grace for what you have NOW. Find gratitude for your blessings in your life, for the things that are going well.  What if you were grateful for everything in your life? Even for the things in your life that you have decided are terrible. [NB: I get that some people have had horrendous things happen to them. It is possible, though, not to have those events set the tone for everything else.]  Perhaps there was some lesson or hidden opportunity.  Notice your abundance and blessings. When you find the gratitude, even in small ways, for all of it, notice what happens!

“You AND Me” not “You OR Me”: What if the intention of the human species was not competition but cooperation? How does that change EVERYTHING? What if every interaction we trusted that we were going receive what we needed and so would anyone else involved in that interaction.  What if more of life was a Win-Win?

If you are finding that you are experiencing resistance to shifting a scarcity mindset, you wouldn’t be the first person.

What beliefs are holding you back from a feeling of abundance and having and being more than enough? Where does anxiety about not having enough keep you from enjoying even the simple things?  What would it take for you to change your story?

Contact me to schedule a complimentary consultation to include some breakthrough coaching strategies to begin to identify that might be limiting you or keeping you in a feeling of “stuck”.  Being willing to let go of some old stories that are not serving you anymore, opens up an evolution in your health and happiness.

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Just wanted to let you know how well I am doing since our session yesterday!  The twinges in my back are fewer and farther in between, and I haven’t taken a flexeril since yesterday morning!!  Plus, twice today I suddenly noticed that the ringing in my ears was silent… unbelievable!!!  Miracle after miracle!
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Wanted you to know how restorative and amazing your Pangu meditation was yesterday. I came away feeling such peace. Saw my aunt for our Sunday night dinner afterwards and she commented how good I looked. I think she was responding to my calm heart. I slept like a baby and today feel very open hearted. Thank you for this gift. You are a powerful healer.
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Erin’s energy is amazing. She is so calming and brings such wisdom in our meetings. Her intuition is incredible even with distance healings/phone meetings. I feel so much better spiritually and physically. I can hear her guidance in the back of my mind whenever I feel anxiety, anger, etc and I try to find peace, love and forgiveness. Thank you Erin!!”  ~N
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Since the time I’ve been working with Erin using her health coaching sessions as well as Qi Gong instruction. I began seeing positive changes in all areas of my life almost immediately. My chronic back pain has improved noticeably, my energy levels are much higher and I feel less stressed and much more resilient in my daily life. I’ve also attended the group healing meditation and was impressed with the results I gained even though I am not a person with meditation experience. I left feeling cal… Read more
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I do want to let you know that my doctor called today and my thyroid has a higher reading.  It is still below normal range, but it’s better.   I believe my sessions with you have benefited my health.
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I know from the first session with you I was impressed.  You are a gentle soul, soft-spoken and have a healing ability that I feel each time we meet face to face or through a phone call. You have taught me to look at everything in a non-judgemental way.
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I’ve been working with Erin for the past several weeks. She has helped me tremendously to overcome some lifelong limiting beliefs as well as clearing energy blocks to create a more sustainable high energy state. If you are feeling stuck, no matter what you try, then I highly recommend you reach out to her. You’ve got nothing to lose and the gain is limitless.
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Wanted to touch base with you about Ql Gong and my feelings.  First, each time I [practice Qi Gong] my hands get very warm and a little tingly.  Second, I have been falling asleep much quicker than before and I haven’t been waking up during the night, getting 6 to 7 hrs of uninterrupted sleep. And last, I feel more calm overall, not so quick to anger.  I feel like these are all positive results. Looking forward to my next visit.
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I learn more each time from you — I know I keep saying it, but, what you have brought to my life at this time has been deep and special in lasting ways that I cannot express well enough, thank you.
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This is an amazing gift. Erin does a terrific job guiding us through breathing and meditation, and the energy is very healing. I always leave feeling relaxed and connected. Thank you!
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